I am not judging them - you are judging that the life of a child is of lesser consequence than a choice that a young woman made to have sex in the first place.
Asking them to not abort a child - is in no way judging them. Letting them know what long term implications they may experience physically as well as emotionally, is not judging them it is informing them.
Judging BEHAVIORS is not judging a human being and I already SAID I don't know how they got to where they are but HELPING someone is not condoning poor choices on top of poor choices - this is HURTING someone.
Like I said if you can explain to me how validating a harmful lifestyle or decision is a loving action then maybe I will change my mind - until then, I can't see this as as the case.