I am sorry for your loss Athena. I too recently lost a loved one suddenly....just caught us all by suprise due to the fact he was only 36. Friendly has an awesome and sweet idea with the candle and opinionated I am needing to grab my tissue reading your response. It's tough during these times but your mom will be with you in spirit. You will indeed laugh and cry when you think of all the fun times you spent with her during this time of year. Enjoy reminissing.....Me and my family plant a tree in memory of the person that is no longer with us.