If the mom is getting frustrated from the extra work, perhaps she can teach the child how to properly clean up the dirty laundry etc. This might relieve some of the frustration. Perhaps a support group would help with techniques and ideas for the mom. Most of all remember to show how much you love your child, and remember that they will grow up one day. With growing up comes some natural instincts on ways to problem solve their own situations. It will all work out.