You might think it sounds easier to come out to these people knowing they're already kinky but... for me, it hasn't been. Partly because my interests are quite different. None [that I know of] are into tickling, and while they're into impact play, I know they don't like things that kind of... are domestic-discipline-like (one friend actually warned me before to 'stay away from DD types. it's not real consent and some of them are nuts'). (I have seen some of the types of people that friend is probs thinking of on some DD spanking forums tbh).
A positive of having kinky friends is... they're probably gonna be fine with other people (eg. me) being kinky. A downside is... I can't easily go to any local kink events (eg. munches) while remaining not out from them, or staying anon, or keeping it separate from people in other parts of my life knowing.
Which is why in the past I've gone to a munch in London before, and connected with non-local people. In the past I travelled to go to a specifically interest in tickling munch, which was a good experience.
But anyway, this last weekend, I attended a [virtual] local munch, and have connected with some local groups online.
And I've also told a few of my RL kink-friendly friends that I've done this. And I've also recognised people from the kink-scene from other parts of my life (not necessarily people I know well). And, I've also connected through messages with a couple people after the munch.
So, I did a brave thing.
100 points to me.
ps. I assume people here know what a munch is but just in case not: it's basically a social meeting/gathering between kinky people but usually in an 'every day' setting like a pub/café [when non-virtual], and where there is chatting etc but no play etc.
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