So sorry Flo..i dont really have words. I can say i do know how you feel somewhat..2024 was my year of loss. Left my house for a legwound, admitted to hosp, 2 mo in rehab and then here. I too kost my cats, my house, my car and my freedom. It isnt easy and until you experience it, a pwrson has no idea. My bet with dil, it has to do with money. Unfortunately you werent part of your finances and hubby took care of all that so do you really have any idea what is what? Getting old can be cruel. You need an advocate to look out for you..