on June 21, 2025, 13:50:28, in reply to "In-laws are watching our 5 year old tonight"
Friday night babysitting, Sunday family dinners, weekends with the grandkids when the boys want to get away with their wives....along with all of the grandkids games/plays/practies/etc.
I truly don't understand the absent grandparents that I hear about so often. I also kind of despise them to be honest. My parents have been gone 3 and 10 years now and one of the few things I ever get emotional about is that they are no longer here to see my boys grow up. They were very present while there were here, but unfortunately didn't get the time they deserved with my boys.
If you are a grandparent that doesn't put in the time with your grandkids, I think you are a piece of shit.
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Unsure if he’s spending the night ( he wants to but in laws may not want him overnight). He’s also going to be spending 14 nights in a row at their Lakehouse with them starting tomorrow night (although my wife will be there every night and I’ll be there for 4 of the overnights).
He’s got day camp Monday-Friday and Mon-Thursday the next 2 weeks though 10 mins from their house so it won’t be constant madness.
My parents live in FL but they will watch him for several hours so I can play a round of golf. They’re also going to watch him for 4 days in early August at our house before he starts Kindergarden.
Can’t imagine not being able to let his grandparents watch him for a few hours unsupervised.
Tonight we made rez for a steakhouse and paying with costco giftcards ‼️
Love free babysitting 1-2 nights a month. Previous Message
This kind of story gets repeated a lot, and I've seen it enough in advice columns. Sometimes the concerns are real, if the grandparents are out-of-it or reckless. Good friends of ours are wonderful people, with it, and were wonderful parents when their kids were around.
One of their offspring is married with a kid of about two years old. The parents will not allow the grandparents to be alone with the child unless one of them is also there. Well, it's the daughter-in-law, really. The son is in a tough spot. The grandparents are sad and hurt.
The parents now have newborn #2. Will things change?
My daughter and her husband were more like, "Sure, take her!" (Or them, when the second came along.)
What has been your own experience?
probably just another real jerk in life70
