Each to their own and I'm glad there are options

Personally I much prefer old school requiems and mourning
Everyone knows the drill and it's cathartic
- curtains closed front of the house
- whole family in black
- mass with incense over the coffin
- graveside prayer
- shake hands. Subdued "thanks for coming etc etc"
- retire to parish club for spread and free bar

How it goes in our family and if it wasn't like that would feel like unfinished business. There's a mourning bit that has to be got through.

Which isn't to say we dont celebrate the life of the deceased but that's more at the wake or the do in the club