For me it's been quite different than coming out as gay. I felt confused by my sexuality (have discussed on here before feeling ace to some degree) but typically identify as a lesbian.

I am lucky that it's always been 'safe' for me to be out, so while I've had weird remarks ("do you fancy yourself?" "do you get turned on whenever you see your own boobs?") I've never experienced direct hate particularly.

A friend of mine said the other day she realises she has no recollection of when I came out to her but feels she just 'knows' I'm gay but can't place since when. I said it's because I'm just low-key constantly out about it. ie. I don't especially bring it up directly, but I make no real attempt to avoid identifying as gay. So if I was talking about being single I might say, "if I had a girlfriend..." or whatever.

"I think I'd feel just as far from BDSM types as I would from Christian DD/HOH"

Yeah... I think TTWD has elements of both that both of those groups would identify with and overlaps with... but things that each of those groups would NOT identify with!

I read a post on a message board at one point from someone (a lesbian) writing how she never quite fit in with BDSM types, and then went to a Christian DD board and found a lot of how they talked about spanking very very relatable (but also realised she couldn't fit in on THAT board either!).

I think BDSM and Christian DD/HOH types seem SO far removed from each other in certain ways, and especially in mentality and approach and stuff... and yet TTWD seems to overlap in some ways with both!