But yes I think you're right on a lot of points here. And it can often be tricky to tread that line between "naughty enough" (that it feels natural to treat "seriously") but not stepping over a line into mean spirited, or pushing too far.
It was when we hid them the second time I was having a little crises in my head as to whether this was now over the line, as I did write into my story. But as much as we got in trouble once the top came back into the room, her reaction actually reassured me things were OK as she continued to create a scene from it and show or inject a bit of humour into the interactions.
Also how dare you notice I have a responsibility chain that can be yanked 😅
As for monogamy, I'm not sure at this point I could be truly fully monogamous with anyone though it depends on how one defines that. I don't think I'm necessarily looking for a polyamorous relationship when it comes to multiple romantic (etc) connections but I wouldn't want to enter a relationship where I was no longer able to play, even casually, with people outside it.
One thing I've discovered is that I vibe so differently with different people and that they can push very different buttons or tap into different feelings or needs.
The good news is, among spanko communities I engage with, it seems to be very much the norm for casual play with others to be fairly accepted as normal, for people in otherwise monogamous-ish relationships
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