1) If I were a coach in this situation I would let my kid know that he needs to steer the action towards the center of the mat or he will be running a little extra at practice the next day rather than point the finger at the other kid. Based on your description I would have hit both with a TV when they committed their respective offenses. There is no reason in the world why they can't keep running at full steam and run in a circle towards the center of the mat...no reason at all. I would ignore the coaches until one of them came to the table to request a conference, and then address the situation there.

2) This sounds like very typical middle school wrestling. It drives me nuts when I see some of my kids do this. You know they can score points, but they aren't trying very hard. It's hard to decide what to do when you get in this situation. If it were high school I would try to identify the wrestler who appears to be stalling and penalize him. If it's middle school wrestling I would probably just let them go. If A doesn't want to try to score points, but allows B to reverse him at the end, then he got what he worked for. It seems that the kids that try to score more points at this level tend to score more points, and the ones who don't, don't. When I coach middle school wrestling, I don't expect to get stall calls from the referees, but if I do, then it is a nice surprise...it has nothing to do with the quality of the officiating, it has only to do with the level of wrestling...the coaches over here are all very patient with the matches and the outcomes because they recognize the level of the wrestling and understand that the goal is to improve their wrestlers skills rather than win every match. I would rather see a wrestler do things well, and execute his moves and lose his match than see him win with sloppy wrestling and poor technique that will fail him when he competes with better wrestlers. If my wrestler stalls for the last round and then loses in the last 5 seconds because he didn't try to score points, then that is just the way it goes, and he is going to have to learn that when he doesn't try to score when he has the chance, he'll reduce his chances of winning (I actually had this happen with 2 of my wrestlers last week at Moses Lake).

Sounds to me like you probably nailed it. Just my opinion, though.