Sorry Carl we seem to be lost in translation, probably me not explaining myself properly! There is no pin4 on the relay, it's relay pin6 to ecu pin4! I have 3.3v at both end of the wire when component off and 0v when on! Switching on/off with scantool!
To me I think it's an ECU fault but then when why doesn't the relay deactivate when I supply it with NBV?