For me....I didn't share my situation with everyone. People automatically go to the worst extreme when they hear breast cancer and then the empathy starts. I think it's important to guard your world. I stopped going around lots of people because people don't know what to say. The last thing we want to hear is who they know that passed away from breast cancer. We concentrate on the SURVIVORS! We believe that we will be inspiration for those coming behind us. People look at this whole thing wrong. Yes....it's difficult, but it can be done. I know someone with MS...her life looks miserable to me, but people treated me with more empathy than her. She needs LOTS of help, but no one is flooding her with phone calls. My point is, there are diseases out there and we all have to play the hand we're given the best way we know how. I think going through this gives you a pass to kindly remove yourself from certain people. It's time to concentrate on you and your healing.