telling everyone
Posted by Queen on May 19, 2016, 10:28 pm
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So the word is spreading. My whole family knows my diagnosis, but now I'm sharing with friends from church and others who will have to know for various reasons. Most everyone has been sympathetic, offered prayers and help if needed. Having experienced grief and tragedy before, I'm aware that most people want to offer comfort but may not realize what they are really saying. Several such comments go from "God doesn't give you anything He doesn't think you can stand - I had an aunt who fought cancer for years before she died - Oh, you're going to learn so much" Really! If so, I wish God thought less of me, I don't want to fight cancer, I want to KILL it! and, I could have cheerfully lived a long life without learning this. One friend sent a couple of books, I know she has a sweet heart and lost her husband to melanoma 2 years ago, but the gifts she sent, depressed me and made me so angry. As I scanned the chapters for info on how to shut my mind off and get some sleep, all I found was how much stronger this experience will make me. It will change my life, NO SHIT!! Please, if you're not sure your words will comfort, here is what I'd prefer: "I'm so sorry for your trouble, is there any thing I can do for you besides pray?" I once offered to clean a friend's bathrooms and kitchen, she was extremely grateful.
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Responses
- Re: telling everyone - carolinapam May 20, 2016, 2:57 am
- Re: telling everyone - Zoe, Queen of Hope May 20, 2016, 8:05 am
- Re: telling everyone - Alvita May 20, 2016, 8:27 am
- Re: telling everyone - Kas May 20, 2016, 9:47 am
- Re: telling everyone - Cheryl W May 20, 2016, 10:17 am
- Re: telling everyone - Ruby May 20, 2016, 1:05 pm
- Re: telling everyone - JanetA May 21, 2016, 4:53 pm
- Re: telling everyone - Peggy June 8, 2016, 12:25 am
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