Luton Outlaws - Independent Message Board for Luton Town FC

As previously mentioned on here I try to treat everyone the same, ie simply as a human, regardless of their appearance. I also try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt while I am getting to know them. My main concern is whether or not someone is one or more of the following

Physically violent
Verbally aggressive
Obnoxious/ inconsiderate
Antagonistic
Willfully ignorant
Unwilling to discuss things

If any of these occur I will then check if they have any kind of special needs. By this I mean a recognised condition that might mean I need to give them more allowance than 'normal' people. I'm probably wording this badly, but I mean some genuine type of mental impairment.

If they don't have a genuine mental impairment but they do behave as in the list above then I reserve the right to criticise them, regardless of whatever category or group that they might be in or identify as being in. Not necessarily there and then as it's probably more important to deescalate a situation as much as possible if violence or any other kind of abusive behaviour is occurring, but certainly once the initial threat has subsided.

If any physical violence or verbally aggressive behaviour is due to genuine self defence then that would be permissable in my opinion so long as it's proportionate. This is probably the most contentious area where different people will have different opinions about what should be considered proportionate. Hence the need to be able to discuss things. I don't think you can ever avoid dialogue if you genuinely want to increase the likelihood of peace and safety, but if the dialogue goes nowhere and the individual or group continues to be physically violent or verbally aggressive then self defence is ok at that point in my opinion.

That's basically how I navigate through life. I imagine some people will disagree but that is their right to disagree and I would happily discuss this with them.