Hi Guys,
Finally took the plunge recently and got my first flattop, which I pretty quickly after cut again into a horseshoe flattop. And I'm LOVING it. I'm really relating to the recent story "The Barber’s Urging" by FlatG. Commented there as Anon2 (finally made an account just now). Of course, like most of us here, I have a ~special interest~ in short haircuts, but beyond kink, there is something I'm really loving about my horseshoe flattop. If it was just kink, I'd be walking around with a shiny MPB lol. But no, with a flattop, I feel bold, courageous, authentic. I've largely been able to handle the mixed reactions in stride, such as at work and with friends. However, last night was a bit of a humbling reality check.
I live in a big American metropolis and I went to a dance party, which was attended by mostly other gay men. And look--there is obviously no way to objectively quantify everything I'm about to start talking about, so please bear with me. I'd say I'm a solid 8/10. I'm not a model, but I know I'm attractive, and I'm in shape. I can usually get some kinda flirty interactions going (not always, but pretty often). Last night was the first big event I went to with my flattop. And I felt SO sexy going there, really confident it was going to hit, and excited to bring this new me into that kind of space. And I definitely didn't get this haircut FOR gay male attention (it was a huge bucket list item like most of us here), but I did think it would have a side effect of others being somewhat turned on by it. But I found the opposite to be true. Felt like I couldn't get a guy to even look my way. I was wondering if the flattop is truly that intimidating and people are assuming I'm extremely racist or aggressive, if it's really made me less attractive, or if this is all just bad science and I need to give it more time. And I'm not even saying that this experience is going to make me grow out my flat. I could let this experience weaken or strengthen my resolve and confidence, as so well expressed by "The Barber’s Urging". It's just more beta I'm grappling with. So I'd like to know, if you're a gay man and have gotten a Flattop, what were your subsequent experiences with dating/social interactions afterward? Were guys turned on? Turned off? Did it just change who was into you? Did it help you find Mr. Right? No effect at all?
Thank you in advance for your considerate responses!
Best,
Chester
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