Do they know you will be having company? If so, make it very clear that this time is for you. They are NOT invited. I am telling you, after my dad died and mom would call Tom or I, we would drop everything and anything that she needed. When her dad was dying, she came over and for Tom. Forget me she wanted Tom. She went into the basement and begged Tom to take her to NJ. I could hear her begging Tom. We got her calmed down. Tom told her ... mom you never have to beg. Let me make a call and we need to pack. So, there are devoted people and others who will do nothing. I say this just to let you know I hear you. ❤️❤️❤️