Asking someone if they are a racist is referring of course that they are, which of course you know. Do you think asking someone if they are a child molestor is offensive? If not i expect many people would disagree with you. Nothing wrong with talking about racism or sexism that i can see, its just when one side wants to act as the arbitrator of what is and isnt that the problem begins. If 50 gay black cons were battling 50 white straight liberals, im sure as hell not going to be on whiteys side.