I thoroughly understand what this person who wrote the obituary is saying. Why would one lie and say kind things about someone after the are gone when they really don't feel that way? The truth is the truth. I hope the children of this human being are getting the help they need to overcome the abuse they have lived with all their lives. My heart is with them, and I wish them much strength and healing. May they let their experiences hone them into kind, thoughtful, sensitive people. Many of us have been in your shoes too. Use your experiences to help others.