Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... Archived Message
Posted by Wyld_Roze on August 10, 2011, 7:04 pm, in reply to "Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant..."
I hate it. It seems like no matter what, I'm either lazy or they blame it on depression. I'm fat, so I must be lazy. They don't get that I can't excersize the way that I would like to, and there are times cooking is too much. Yes, right now I'm on food stamps, and guess what, I do buy junk food quite a bit. Making a sandwich with some chips, or throwing a tv dinner in the microwave takes alot less effort than cooking, effort I sometimes don't have. They don't know there are other illnesses that have caused the weight gain and make it hard to get rid of, even without Fibro. I'm SOOO tired of hearing that I just need to get off my lazy ass and excersize and eat right. If it were only that easy. I sleep all day, so I must be lazy or depressed and if I would just get out of the house it would make it all better. Or, why do you need meds to help you sleep, that's all you do. They don't get that as tired as I am, it's hard for me to fall asleep, but once I'm there it's hard for me to wake back up. The pains are just stress, or because I'm overweight. Okay, I get some of the pains being overweight, but definitely not all and not the kind that I have!! My senses have become overly sensitive; light and sound can literally hurt, but if I say I can't deal with being around kids (even good kids), I'm being insensitive. They think it's horrible when I don't want to be around my family, but they don't realize that just being around that many people can be stressful, even if it's a good kind of stress. That any stress effects me physically. I'm accused of only doing things I want to do because people see me one day and I'm okay to go out, but the next week I can barely stand for more than 10 minutes. They don't know that I pay dearly everytime I over exert myself, like a night on the town, or mowing the lawn, washing the dishes, or even taking a shower, getting dressed and putting on makeup. Sometimes there is no reason for a flare, it just happens, but everyone always asks WHY you hurt, are tired, etc. I can't remember things or words, so I must not care, or been paying attention, or I'm just plain stupid or don't know what I'm talking about. They don't understand that brain fog can make you forget where you are, how to get places, words you use everyday, etc. They don't get that you can't just go to the doctor and get treated. Just FINDING a doctor who believes you and WANTS to treat you is a challenge. Doctors will blame it on depression. I do deal with depression, but it's secondary because I can't do what I used to be able to do. You get labeled as a hypochondriac. Or they just don't feel like dealing with you when none of the meds they throw at you work, or you can't stand the side effects because you are now overly sensitive to those too. And the worst of them all, the people who don't believe in Fibromyalgia, or they believe it, but don't believe I have it. They say it's all in my head, or have I tried Lyrica? On TV it says it makes you feel better, or you just need to try this vitamin or that vitamin or eat this diet or that. Ugh, it drives me nuts!!! People, including doctors, look at me and make judgements, and I can't do anything to change their minds. All they see is a fat, lazy, unemployed woman. Through all of that, what bugs me the most is that I can't go out and work like I used to be able to do. I never had a problem working whatever job for however many hours I needed to work to get the bills paid. Now I'm unemployed (beyond unemployment checks), still having to pick and choose jobs that I am physically capable of doing, and praying that I'm not lying to myself or the employer that I can do them. I went to school for a year to become a Dog Trainer, and graduated with honors. Now I don't have the energy to walk dogs down at Stray Rescue, if I have the energy, I hurt too much afterwards. So, I've been hoping to get a sit down job that pays high enough to pay the bills that are piling up, though it's getting to the point that I may have to try to get a job at retail and that scares me. I have no idea if I'll be able to handle it and not working for this many years only to get fired will make it even harder to get another job. *sigh* Sorry, this thread just hit a nerve and I had to vent.
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Message Thread:
- Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - Dr. Ray Langston August 10, 2011, 3:44 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - msfiddler August 10, 2011, 4:05 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - jdg August 10, 2011, 4:39 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - Wyld_Roze August 10, 2011, 4:52 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - GIT August 10, 2011, 5:54 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - Ginger August 10, 2011, 7:07 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - Kayy August 10, 2011, 9:15 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - Wyld_Roze August 10, 2011, 4:49 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - Kayy August 10, 2011, 9:13 pm
- Re: Hard to believe that people are still this ignorant... - 3Dee August 11, 2011, 9:26 am
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