If You're going to be a villain on GCG...Archived Message
Posted by 3Dee on May 14, 2011, 12:17 pm
I don't speak this with any authority. When I say these things, they are just my opinions from someone who is small "o" opinionated. But what I say holds no more weight than anyone else.
With that said, I am disturbed at the latest trend of some of our villains here being outed as people who are involved in the community or had a position in the community in some way.
I recognize the fact that our fearless leaders really are reading this and are lurking to see what the conversation is. Hence, I proudly protect the 3Dee brand. I'm a nobody and yet a somebody to someone, thus it is important for me to keep a standard of decency and make good on any lapses in decency. I can't afford to be outed as an indecent human being; it really wouldn't be good.
That means my methods of disturbing and creating sparks have changed radically since the beginning of time. I don't want to go the road of saying hurtful things and leaving myself open for disgracing myself.
If anything -- I can be outed as a sinner who seeks to get back up again. Aren't we all that way to some degree? Who can be perfect?
But it is hard to see people who are not mere nobodys in the community, but Somebody's by virtue of what they do or what they represent being outed as an obnoxious-ass poster who says mean-spirited if not slanderous things about others.
Making things worse, there is no attempt to come back and show decency.
Yes, when outed and disgraced, it is hard to ever get back trust, and impossible to get back the trust you once had. Yet, a show of decency, such as an "I'm sorry" or something like that at least shows that there is some humanity in your soul and a resolve to grow into a more decent human being.
If you are a public figure - please do not hide behind an ID to vent your dirty laundry, grind your ax, or oppose your enemies.
What happens is that the mask begins to wear out and little by little you keep showing more of yourself. It's only a matter of time.
If you are that public figure and want to remain anonymous -- my advice would be to play nice and try to form a rapport with people here. That way, if you ever are outed, you will be seen as the decent human being you have been all along.
I use Operator as the perfect example of someone who had a handle and when he came out as who he was...his real persona was no less than what his online persona was -- a nice guy that cares about our fine suburb, Pontoon Beach.
Other outings have not been so happy.
So public figures lurking, if you're thinking about an alter ego -- it's fine to do it, but realize if you try to be a villain or grind your axe here---somehow it will eventually catch up with you.
Maybe being disgraced on GCG is not a big deal on a board with 10-15 regulars and a supporting cast of about 25-30 -- but it can be referenced and e-mailed... and you never know how large the supporting cast of lurkers is.
Please use common sense people. I am truly dismayed at what I have found out and a little disappointed at who it turned out to be in two of the last outings.
on May 14, 2011, 12:17 pm