Bob - you said... I just don't understand how you can hate everything the man says and does then say that you don't hate the man"

I did not say "everything"... my exact statement was
I don't hate President Trump, I do hate many of his decisions, policies, etc.

You're correct it is a matter of personal beliefs and the way we were raised, and how we individually interpret the word hate, but no one should or can tell me that I hate another human being.

There's a difference in my mind between hating things, actions, beliefs, and hating another human being.