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Re: Ex-hubby's big breasted girlfriend
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Kas, You have so much worth. You went through the fire and came out on the other side. That makes you a heroine in my book. You have a right to vent. It's hard to say "just forget him and his cruelty" even if he is a jerk. But yes, he is a shallow jerk. It's hard to give up on the way things were, or the way we used to look. I had a double mastectomy 10+ years ago, and I still miss having breasts. I really could not have reconstruction (chemo, radiation, big tumor and not enough tissue left), and for me that was sort of okay, because I was older and I honestly didn't want more surgery. A few months ago, I saw a great article in the New York Times about women with double masts who decided to "go flat" -- meaning they don't wear a bra or prosthesis. I felt good about that article because I've been going flat most of the time and only wear a bra when I'm wearing warm weather clothing. I want to make the leap to "going flat" all the time, but I guess I'm not ready yet. Don't give up on finding the right guy. Not all men value breasts above all else. But I've found that my long-time friends keep me feeling not lonely and better about myself. Women understand women.
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