Re: OMG, is it just me? Archived Message
Posted by whatusay  on July 27, 2016, 3:38 pm, in reply to "Re: OMG, is it just me?"
Well, thank you, thank you, thank you. A much appreciated voice of reason ElCooksta!
I know exactly what you mean by being hyper vigilant and knowing when you hear that folder being pulled from the door that old doc is making his entrance.
I would take the book from my child and prepare them for their exam, and for me to interact with the doc.
I didn't wheedle and whine, "Oh, my blessed little snowflake, may mommy have the "Cat In The Hat Book" now? The doctor is here to make sure you aren't sick and we need you to pay attention."
I took the book, OMG without asking, put it back in place...and the examination began.
Do today's mothers really believe their five year olds deserve respect by an elder, in this case, an older professional who probably has a waiting room full of sick and grumpy kids waiting to be seen?
You have the ask the question, how do you disrespect a five year old?
By telling them no, refusal of something, making them mind? I don't get it.
My children earned my respect as they got older and displayed good behavior, stayed out of trouble, developed excellent work ethics and began to live an adult life. And I sure the hell didn't expect adults to bend to some imaginary level that mimics respect to a child who can barely wipe their own bottom.
Children deserve love, encouragement, a home to feel safe in, parental interaction and involvement...but to think they deserve respect, respect is a relative term I guess. I just never considered that my children had ever been disrespected by an adult.
This mother is not teaching this child at this young of an age to not let anyone disrespect them, they aren't capable of understanding the concept. She is actually doing that child a disservice, as so many parents have done in the last twenty years. The same parents who march into school to defend their brat, whose side they have taken over the teachers, who accompany their adult children to job interviews (HR is shaking their heads over this crap) to make sure this grown kid is getting a fair shake at a job, or actually call a grown kid's boss to set them straight about this or that. You know the millennials have to be treated with kid gloves in order for them to do their jobs these days.
OK after all this ranting, I just want to say...this mother is a nut case, and so is the imbecile who agreed with her.
|
|
