Welcome Back Jerlilia (Sis'),
Even though it is only temporary (for the moment right now) it is great to hear from you. I figured that you were super busy but I was compelled to reach out and let you know that you were loved and thought of.
Sis', you are so... down to earth, I love it (don't ever change). Sis'? Girl like you said; you have been on many of our minds (that just means that you are well loved and missed by so many and that you are on our minds as well as in our prayers). Say hello to our Classmate Madeleine Ervin from all of us here at the Big Ten when you get a chance and give her our love. Tell her to not be a stranger and let her know that whenever she's ready to post on this message board to just jump right on in.
Glad to hear that your schooling is going well. Wow Sis', you have had a lot on your plate for a very long time (3 years- Wow, where does the time go)? Girl, you had me cracking up about all of the things that you were thinking about and that you may be contemplating while going through mid-life now (especially the marriage part). But who knows? They say that it happens when you least expect it.
Sis', I do not blame you for shutting down the computer and anything relating to or with technolgy for awhile. I never joined that Facebook and have no plans of doing so. I'm on enough of the Class websites (so those are more than enough for me). Everytime I turn around I hear something negative about Facebook on the news (so that makes me even less likely to join it). Sis, I know exactly what you mean; sometimes you have to shut as much of the outside world out to bring calm, peace and silence to your life. Shutting things and people out for awhile helps you get your bearings back and helps you to put your life and everything you're going through into perspective. 'So good for you Sis', set your phone to voice mail (and only take emergency calls) and deal with life and everyone in it at your leisure and on your own terms for now.
Sis, I can't tell you how proud I am of you for dropping everything for a while to take care of your sister and getting her moved and situated in your home. Dialysis is nothing to play around with. None of us ever know when we may need help from our loved ones. Girl, you are definitely and truly a blessing for your Sister. I'm sure that she appreciates having you as a blessing to care for her. Sis' I have heard of too many horror stories about family members not taking care of their family members when they are ill. Believe it or not you and a few others that I know of are in the minority when it comes to that. It's very sad that some people do not want to be bothered with their own Parents or family members when they get ill. Some may have to put their loved ones in a Nursing facility because they have to work but then some Girl, they'll put them in a Nursing Home in a minute; won't visit them and won't think twice about it (which is a pitiful shame). Even though she does not know us, say hello to your Sister from all of us from our Big Ten Family and let her know that we will keep her in our prayers. Yeah Girl, we aren't spring chickens anymore so we have to get our rest, eat right, exercise and take care of ourselves as best we can. Sis, I hope that you find a Doctor out your way in your area soon.
As far as nosy neighbors go (I think the statute of limitations never runs out on that); and yes it can be very scary (at times to have nosy neighbors) but sometimes it can also be helpful/beneficial, (and believe me that when I say sometimes, I mean few and far between). I think it's like you said; some people just don't have a life. Some of them just get joy out of nosying in other folks business, or staring out their windows all day long just hoping to see what you're doing or see what's going on with you, or sitting on the porch watching the cars go by and looking to see who ever they can see (for many that's just their lives and their favorite pasttimes. My neighbors are very nice but they are nosy too. I just wave at them when I see them and I just keep going).
Sis, somtimes you just cannot be nice to people all the time. I'll tell you one of my stories. One day I saw this homeless man pushing his basket/cart with his bottles down our street. He asked me if I had any bottles to give him and I said sure. I gave him a full black trash bag full of water bottles (large and small), milk bottles, etc. I saw him another day and I did the same thing. Then later he started coming by once a week for bottles. Then one day my neighbor called me to tell me that the homeless man was outside yelling and hollering at the top of his lungs for me, Jerlilia, Girl that was the last straw for me. Girl, you know I went outside and told his behind off (I tried to do it tastefully though). Needless to say I have not had any more problems with him yelling/hollering like that anymore. He still comes and gets the bottles but now he comes on a certain day and at a certain time. He knows that if I do not open my door on that particular day that he best keep on stepping. Girl, sometimes it's hard to help people; because they are quick to take your kindness for weakness. So I know exactly what you mean about being friendly or too friendly. People automatically gravitate to kind and friendly people. I can't tell you how many times my Son asks me Mom do you know that person and I tell him "no" they just started talking to me. So Sis' you have a friendly face, beautiful personality and a sweet disposition and that is why folks can't stay away from you. People know friendly people and they can see the light inside of you (that spiritual light that only God can give you) 'and it draws them in every time'. People know Godly people when they see them without a word being said and they also know that Godly people are loving and caring people and that's why they gravitate toward you over and over again.
As far as the book reading on the train: 'Please Be Careful' reading your book on the train and off the train. When youu're reading you aren't aware of your surroundings and that can be a very bad thing. I did it before and will never do it again. Years ago for about 1-2 months while my car was in the shop, I took the train to work Downtown L.A.; Girl that book I was reading by Terry McMillan was so.... good, I could not put it down and Sis' I almost got run over by the Metro train. I had just got off of the train but did not realize that another train was coming the opposite way; but the people that got off the train with me saw that I was not paying attention and reading that book and they pulled me back in the nick of time (so I'll never ever do that again. That was a hard lesson for me to learn). So Sis' take it from experience, be very careful getting too carried away with reading those books on the train (or if you do; make sure that you look up from time to time).
Well Sis', I'm going to stop now. "Thank You" so much for responding back. It was so good to hear from you and I'm glad that we were able to catch up with one another like this. Hopefully and Godwilling we will be able to see one another at our next Class gathering or at our 2015 "40th Reunion" in 2 years. It is always great to share with one another (in fact that is what this website and this message board is all about). Sis', some may think that we are crazy typing these long conversations on the board, but oh well (I hope that more of our Classmates will start joining in on many of the different message board conversations and discussions because we are all family and all are more than welcome to join in at any time).
So take your time Sis ('And Just Do You' for awhile). We will all understand because lo and behold we all have to do it for ourselves from time to time. We all need more alone time and peaceful moments (if we can get them)!!
Love you Sis', God bless you & take care !!
Love and Blessings, Phoebe (Your Sis' Friend for Life)
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