The way you joked was done softly, but in general joking about mental health in this sort of way is something I often talk about [in my life to people etc]. It can feel dismissive etc to people's problems, and I think the way OCD jokes in particular have become so common, it can actually cause problems for people.
When people wrongly equate OCD to things like 'just being a tidy person' and make jokes like "I wish I had OCD so I would tidy my house" or "I need to get someone with OCD to come clean for me" etc, it can be damaging to people who have severe problems, and want/need to be taken seriously.
I wasn't diagnosed until I was 16 - once it got to a stage where it was just impossible not to see I had a severe problem. But until that point, I honestly thought everyone felt as I did, but everyone else just coped better. It's that thing again where... the compulsions are much like what 'normal' people do... but to a way greater extent. My mother would ask other parents about my behaviour over the years and get the reply 'all kids do that. she's just being controlling'.
When everyone around me is saying they're 'so OCD' it can feel like I've got a gaping wound, and a bunch of people with papercuts are saying "yeah man, I know how you feel."
On a related topic, I have a friend with schizophrenia, and I have 2 friends (one very close, and one good friend who I'm not in as much contact these days) who have been detained under the mental health act (eg. 'sectioned')
Over the last few years, I've tried to cut certain words/phrases from my speech because I know it upsets or bothers them. Such as describing things as 'mental' (this isn't one I used anyway really, but that's one of the worst ones). But also 'crazy' or 'insane' (eg. 'wow that's insane').
These are not super widely considered slurs and most people won't get offended or even say anything if they're someone it bothers, but I'm aware of a number of people with mental health issues who are bothered by them, especially when they've got a condition that causes people to use 'crazy' to describe them (eg. schizophrenia).
Insane and Crazy are ones I used to use a lot in the past. I also try not to use 'mad' for crazy-type-mad (but I do use it to mean angry-mad). Sometimes the words slips out, but the words I've been trying to use instead are: wild, ridiculous, unbelievable, preposterous, (etc).
Also, my post here is not really directed at you, Alyx. Your post was sort of just the minor prompt that I ended up spring boarding off of. Honestly, I regularly type long rambling replies to just about any topic!
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