Lucie is right on about time limitations.I think the longer you have been with someone the more difficult it is to mourn.

I think you did a good thing about the song Lurell.Her son has most likely never lost a mate and doesn't understand.

Tears are actually a good thing. Endorphins are released in the brain.Sounds like this lady should be seen by a health professional and evaluated and he might be reluctant to do so.