It is really annoying how women are judged by the size of their breast. Even though I am a C cup, & that's the size many women request when they have implants, I had a man refer to me, before my breast cancer, as small breasted. I was astounded over such a comment. He made this observation by just seeing me in my clothes. I immediately said to him I thought my breast were the perfect size for my body size, and he must have a small penis to make such a remark. I laugh to this day at his reaction as he sputtered out he certainly did not have a small penis. I then said well you must or you wouldn't make such a comment.
I knew a lady who was STUNNING in every way in my opinion & many others. I asked a man if he found her beautiful, and he said she would be if her breast were larger. So this is beauty to many men, and has caused breast implants to be the most popular surgery women get. I find that rather sad, because in my honest, personal opinion I don't think it adds one bit to a woman's charm or beauty. My ex is so shallow I can't be loved by him now that I've had breast cancer. He's a real jerk posting these pictures of his girlfriend in her bikini knowing I would see them with her huge breast he obviously is fascinated with.
I don't even mention to men I go out with I had breast cancer. It's really none of their business. Let them live in their fantasy I never have had it. I'm grateful I finally found these inexpensive stick on half breast at Walmart to fill out the side that is twice as small now as my other breast. I find it really sad that it is so expensive to get fitted with special bras for women who have had breast cancer. It shouldn't have to cost that much. I do not have good insurance that will pay for this. I feel these places take advantage of women to make money from this terrible disease.
I'm sorry your mother was so insecure & chose to do that to you. I know all about dysfunctional families, I came from one.