I am also a retired nurse and remember the "good ol' days" when people NEVER went home from the hospital til their surgical wounds completely healed...ha!! those days are over thanks to changes in insurance...I can't believe people have to deal with their wounds at home...with all the problems you are having, see if you can get referred to a Wound Management specialist (most hospitals have now)...it might help you to heal faster and help you deal with your difficult issues...sorry for your pain hon, hang in there