Since then the fear of it happening again caused it to. I too have avoided many many social occasions due to having to base everything around where the nearest loo is. I've got moody with people when I am out, and stressed and haven't been able to explain why. I have always tried to fight against it by forcing myself to the urinal on occasions. I have other symptoms of social phobias like sweating, palpitations and basically losing control. This has caused lack of confidence.
I've been married for 13 years now, two children and quite a high powered job and up until January never had a day off sick due to anxiety - which is amazing as I have been on Seroxat etc for 14/15 years. In December however I got promoted and after Xmas couldn't face going back to work - I was near a nervous breakdown. And how do you explain to anybody that it's all toilet based?
The first step was to tell my wife the reasons. I can't believe I've never told her before - she always knew that I needed to go before I went anywhere and would normally go whenever I passed one, but no more. Her response was, "so what. It's no big deal."
You see I travel a lot in my job and my biggest phobia is being a passenger and needing the loo, and then stopping and not being able to go and then getting in the car and wetting myself. Or being in a training course for one whole (or even worse) two days with the same people using the same toilet. And my logical brain also says, if I can't pee when I want to, what's to stop me peeing when I don't want to. But I think one of your FAQs has just answered this.
Luckily for me I have private health insurance through work and have been seeing a psychologist since January. For me, I've found that I've been approaching it all from the wrong angle. As many of you have said there is no wrong and right. Why try to force myself to a urinal when I can just go in the cubicle? Saying that, I haven't got around to telling anybody else about the problem. I am no way cured but I am not mad, I am not alone and the problem is not (as I perceive other people perceiving it 'stupid')
Just about every social occasion I look back on I can picture the anxiety that preceded it. And I can alos remember all the excuses I have made for missing out on so many others.
So I'm certainly feeling better about it. As my psychologist says, there is no cure because there is nothing wrong. I just need to open up more - and not just in the proverbial sense.
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