The wife was always overbearing...she'd try to gain favor with people by purchasing them gifts, trying to convince them to donate / help with school events, etc etc. She always threw great birthday parties for the kids. Etc.
The last few years, as her businesses failed and their financial walls started closing in, it seemed like her overbearing nature became more and more divorced from reality. Very conspiratorial. Very passive aggressive / aggressive but anonymous / straight incoherent at times.
She started sending anonymous and masked harassing / threatening emails...usually complaining about PTA finances to the PTA and the school administration. A lot of it was very personal and totally unhinged. She'd attack individuals with completely fabricated claims or personally insult their kids, etc.
Last winter my daughter played on the same basketball team as their youngest. I told my wife, "I don't want her going over to their house unless one of us is going to be present the entire time."
I wasn't worried about this, but I was worried Paula would say some shit completely outrageous and totally freak out our 9 year old.
I believe that she was totally narcissistic and saw her family as an extension of her own ego and that if she was going to die they were all going to die...and psychopathic enough to actually do it.
I'm fine...like I'll get on with my life...but I'm still pretty disturbed. I've been in their house a bunch. I know the layout and what the rooms looked like. The young one had spent the night at our house. I can picture where they were each found. It's just an awful scene to have in my head and I'm an adult. I'd imagine that's what's also scary for my kids.
It's just really disturbing.
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They were massively MASSIVELY in debt. The wife, Paula, seemed to be the driving force behind all of their ventures and seemed to be fairly successful. Little did most of us know, it was mostly a sham.
Anyway, last Wednesday I drive home an alternate route and see the cops and police tape at their house. I call my cop friend who lets me know "it's really bad...murder suicide with the kids included". I fill in our immediate friend group so that they know they'll be getting a communication from school.
It seems to be that the BIL was trying to get ahold of the husband (TR) for several days and couldn't manage to make contact. He shows up to the house on Monday where the wife meets him at the door and says that TR lost his phone and is on his way back from a golf trip. She's not feeling well and she'd have TR get ahold of him when he made it home.
Monday the younger girl leaves school sick because she's having trouble focusing and keeping balance. I'm not sure about the 7th grader, but I'm guessing something similar. The police suspect they're killed either that night or the next day (Tuesday).
She calls the brother again and asks for him to come help. "TR is home but he's not acting like himself and the girls and I are scared." BIL asks the police to do a wellness check which they do wednesday morning and get no response at the house. BIL returns and breaks in and finds his brother and nieces in bed dead and the wife hanging in the garage.
The condition of the father indicates he's been dead for awhile. His face is swollen and there's some blood around his head. The two girls are in their beds and one has a pink substance from her mouth, indicating poisoning but not a violent / suffering death.
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...and just kinda factually told them. We didn't get into detail (some of that came out later) but told them that a terrible thing had happened and Mackenzie and Alex and their family were all dead.
We explained that it was their mom and she was very very sick and that other kids are safe and this is incredibly rare and we'd answer any questions they had.
They were both upset by it but my son wanted to go to school. His sister, who's a little more anxious wanted to stay home. She didn't want to talk about it with grief counselors and other kids and etc etc. I took a day off and let her stay home and we just hung out. She had lotsa questions and was "nervous" that maybe parents get mad enough that they kill their family sometimes.
They're doing all in all ok but sometimes they'll say something that just makes you choke up. We were cleaning up this weekend and going through a box of old school stuff and found a partner/writing exercise that my daughter and the younger girl had done together about SF Animal Care and Control...because like all 9 year old girls they love animals.
It puts an immediate lump in your throat.
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...that hit really close to home.
It was a family annihilation of the family of a classmate of my 9yo daughter. Shocker is, it was the mother who was the murderer of the rest of them.
Even more disturbing (for me) is that I broke the news to our friend group. On Wednesday last week, I took a different exit on the way home from work and it took me past their house. I saw the police presence and caution tape and called a cop friend where they informed me "it's not good...murder suicide of the family, including the kids".
It's been pretty mentally consuming/exhausting and not in a good way...but that bitch of a woman, I'm sure, planned this to have maximum impact on her family and everyone else tangentially involved.
https://patch.com/california/san-francisco/family-found-dead-westwood-highlands-identified-report 
on October 14, 2025, 10:33:36
