Well, this comes as a bit of a shock and I for one are not offended. Met you twice and that was sufficient to find you a very decent chap. We don't or didn't sit together and all those that do know you may not sit together either, hence the half time meet up when possible. "On top of you slightly" to me means the opposite and I have the utmost respect for how you are conducting yourself. Your Daughter can do without the Appendix and Gall Bladder because when they become iffy there's a lot of pain involved. As others have said no doubt you need to reach out to those relatives and friends as well as the Medical Profession, otherwise you're at risk of going down a very Rocky Road and that simply won't do. Hope all goes well for your Family and hope to see you again one day. Best Regards, Den.