"Finally, in his deal with life: "I will be perfect, so life will be perfect to me" he is especially vulnerable to any failure intruding into his existence, whether it be a flat tire on his automobile, a natural disaster or the loss of a loved one. Such failures may register not only as deep disappointments, but as hopeless reversals in what he perceives should be a natural order in life. The loss of a loved one, in particular of a family member, is an incomprehensible, unbearable crushing blow to him. If he does not throw himself on the pyre, then he will enter a melancholic abject state of deep mourning. He will wear black, literally or figuratively, for months or years and often will take his grief to the grave..."
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