Dear Judith,Sorry for delayed responses, only just got access to internet. I think the Samuel F Waite in my records is the one born 1858 in Llantivel Neath Glamorgan. His mother is Eliza
(subsequent name of one of daughters) and his father is Matthew ( name of his first son). In 1881 he is shown as unmarried and is living in Caldicot(where one of the Waite children is baptised). It is also worth noting that he has a sibling Matthew Henry. Caldicot is in the sub-registration district of Shirenewton where Emily Stoneham is living in 1881 with her family. She is a servant 'out of position' which I think is because she is pregnant.

Her first child William Henry is born in 1882 and baptised in Itton to parents Samuel and Emily of Itton.

Annie Matilda is born in 1884 and also baptised at Itton.

Sidney Frederick Waite is born 1886 and baptised Caldicot 22/oct 1886 ( born 29 sept 1886)

In 1889 Sidney dies in Salford/Manchester.
Also, in 1889 Matthew Henry WAITE is born in Chorlton Manchester which suggests she is still with Samuel at this point.

In 1891 she is with Tom Harris although as you say the census can be read as James. Opinion has been split on this and it may be a hand-writing issue of the enumerator because at no-other time is the name James used. He is always referred to as Tom Harris of birth Honiton. On this census all the children as shown as 'Harris'.

Another contributor to this thread (Karen) has found that a Tom Harris with parents Jane and Henry enlisted in Preston in 1881. He was born in Honiton and had a sibling named 'Albion', an unusual name, which is also the name given to a later son of Emily and Tom Harris.

However, I cannot trace Tom before this date!
Neither can I trace Samuel F Waite after 1881 census. I still cannot find a death for him.

The Samuel F Waite who dies in 1910 is a different one born in 1854 with a mother Sarah and a father Samuel. This person subsequently marries an Ann and spends some time living in Yorkshire.
When Annie Matilda Waite marries in 1906 the marriage certificate shows her father as Samuel Waite deceased.

It remains very confusing as to Tom Harris prior to 1891 ( apart from the new information re the enlistment in 1881) and Samuel Waite after 1881.
Thanks for your continued interest.
Tiffany