Sorry to hear you have been going thru rough times and I hope things get better for you. Believe it or not, but this could be the cause of Poppy pulling her hair, if it is stress related. If I may make a suggestion, if you can budget it to get either a calming spray to spray in her favorite areas or a Feliway plug in. These give off pheromones which may calm her down. The Feliway plug was a godsend to me when I had to introduce Rusty to Misty, because of Mistys age, and being soon after the loss of her bestie, Bailey