If you understand, no explanation is necessary...if you don't understand, no explanation is possible.
Problem is, no explanation for me is possible either, so I can't explain it either.
While I can't understand it, there may be ways to try. It depends if I'm willing to listen. It depends if there's a humility in admitting that things are different in my reality than someone else.
I might not fully be able to understand, but we might then at least learn a few answers to those questions.
I don't believe anyone who says Black Lives Matter wouldn't also say Bob Lives Matter either.
However, if someone says 'Black Lives Matter', but it's negated with 'Bob Lives Matter' without any acknowledgment as to why that statement even has to be made, then there is that feeling of disrespect comes from not being listened to, or words.....disrespected.
But I assure you, Bob lives matter!