You are apparently hoping none of us will point out that the red dress, as an optional attire, is reflective of that person's likes and/or expectations, ergo it is not unreasonable to react to them.

By your logic, it would be equally inappropriate to turn down the blind date if she came to the door with clown makeup on her face and Kleenex boxes on her feet.

Also, most people don't schedule RPs; they go to chat rooms and mingle. Ergo, if you want a real life equivalent, it wouldn't be planning a date a week in advance so much as going to a singles' bar.

Which would make you, Mr. I-Demand-RP-From-People-Who-Find-Me-Revolting, equivalent to the guy who thinks all the alcohol in his system magically turned him into a sex god.

Drunk Guy (AKA: You): "Hey cutie! Wanna' dance?"
Sober Guy: "Sorry, I don't swing that way."
Drunk Guy: "Well I do! So #### you -- we're dancing!"

You can't square this circle Methen. No matter how you slice it, you're still a narcissistic douche (the kind of guy Elliot Rodgers would have identified with).