Posted by Jenee' (C.J.) on 10/19/2003, 2:59 pm, in reply to "Boyfriend with son.. how do I fit?" --Previous Message--
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If you love him you and have been through this much with him you must have patience. That is of course the key in this situation. Take a step back and just support him, he does not know his son because of the previos barriers around their relationship. Let him build up the relationship that he desires with his son first and then when he is ready he will incorporate you. So, chill, his building a relationship will more than likely not end his with you. Have faith in your love.
C.J.
: Hi...
: I have been seeing my boyfriend now
: for 2 years off and on.. we have
: broken up twice and are now back
: together.. the biggest reason for
: breakup before was his drinking he
: admits he is an alcoholic, and as of
: this past January he quit drinking
: and things have been going so so good
: between us now.. however a situation
: is happening now that TO ME is maybe
: a sign, I am very serious about us
: and look forward to a long life and
: having a family someday with him...
: he has a son that is now 10 that he
: hadnt seen in 6 years (due to his
: drinking), his ex called recently and
: his son wanted to meet him.. I have
: some frustrations with this situation
: because i feel i should be
: incorperated into the situation right
: away and he keeps saying that it
: doesnt concern me right now and it is
: his thing.. in time he wants me to
: meet him and we can do things with
: him together.. he doesnt seem as
: interested in me meeting and/or
: talking to him as i do.. granted he
: has only seen him once now and talked
: to him on the phone twice for two
: hours and i got to talk to him the
: first time he did on the phone for a
: few minutes... should i put an
: ultimatom out there... or chill and
: back up?
: (I think next weekend i am supposed
: to go to a soccar game with boyfriend
: and meet him.. ??)...
: WHAT SHOULD I DO, PLEASE HELP?
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