Posted by Dana
on 8/4/2009, 9:18 pm
64.12.116.141
This was originally written as a blog, but I meant every word. Joe, you have to know that we all luv ya both, and are here for whatever the future brings to you.
My Friend
I have a friend that I play cards with, whose wife has fought a long and hard battle with cancer. He loves her, completely and absolutely, and fights right alongside her in her campaign to stay alive and in love with him, as much as he is with her. Couples like them are rare indeed, and should be a shining example to all of us. He remains strong with her, but at times in the card site, he says something that just screams "OMG what am I going to do without her??" He knows, that the inevitable will happen, and he knows that he will survive, he just doesn't know how. He has no idea how he will overcome the loss, and how he will ever feel anything ever again or even how he will wake up breathing. He can't comprehend the facts while he looks at the woman he holds so dearly. He watches the disease, and at the same time, he watches the woman he pledged to love till death do us part smile at him and be the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with, not just hers. It is heart wrenching...to watch from a seat in the card room, let alone a front row seat in his life. God Bless them both although I suspect God already knows that they are already blessed.
How does a human being cope with this kind of loss, and the life that leads up to it? I suppose we dont always cope well., but life is a funny thing. It gives us all these people and happenings.....and then it is up to us, to decide what we do with them. Silly God, to think we will make all the right decisions. Perhaps he knows, that we won't, that we will choose the wrong path, and learn as we go, that we will stumble then make our way back.
I know there have been significant times in my life where I have thought...I just can't do this... but I have. I look at every person and event in my life, as a learning experience, when I can't classify them/it any higher. Take all the memories, and make them a part of me....for better or worse, so to speak.
Life is a strange blend of agony and ecstasy.....we hurt, we love. Every experience and person makes their own little or significant impact on us, and we treasure the good and learn from the bad. Memories are ours, no one can take them from us, and onward we go....Armed with the love and memories that keep us going when life becomes too much for that moment in time. Even after they are gone, they remain. Thay remain in thoughts, and a quiet moment....and a hard time when you draw on the life lessons they taught you. Forever, they are yours.
So be strong my friend, and when you can't be strong anymore, for that moment in time, call me.
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