I went through a similar situation with my wife in 2008. It was not fun. I still miss her.
The most important thing I learned from that is that I have to get out and do things myself.
Find other interests and don't let yourself feel guilty that you could have done something to keep her.
As hard as it seems, the best thing to do is to take care of yourself and go out and have some legal, safe, FUN! It didn't take the pain away for me but it did help me handle it until the hurt kind of scabbed over.
After a while I was left with a scar that reminded me of the hurt of loosing her. It does get better!
One problem I had was wondering what I could have done differently that could have kept this from happening.
I didn't learn anything from that except that no mater the answer, I still had no answer that could have brought her back.
So, I finally decided that since I could do nothing about it, I would stop worrying about it and find something else.
After some consideration I decided to enjoy what I had left and to help others when I could.
We all have a purpose in life, if we are lucky, we will figure out what it is. If we are good, we will do it well and help others.
When one purpose is done, it is time to find a new one.
Go! Have fun looking for your new purpose!
When those times with the tears come, know that it was worth it and go on.
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