I am an 11 year survivor of ductal, stage 3c, 28+ grape sized nodes. So chemo was the plan, like it or not. I also did extra chemo, 6 dose dense AC instead of 4. Taxotere with Xeloda for 12 weeks, instead of Taxol for 4 doses. Chemo is awful, but you get through it. In my area, Seattle, there were some trials going on. Taxotere & Xeloda were found to be a good combo that seemed to put one in "remission" for a long period of time. I also have been on an aromatase inhibitor for 10 years. I may continue that. It is now more of a practice to be on it for 10 years with a bone strengthening drug.
My body isn't what it was before cancer. BUT I have lived with my family, fully participating for all of these years and I am utterly thankful.
Bottom line is that you have to be okay with what ever treatment you choose and the consequences.
P.S. The consequences for me could be heart trouble.