I've had people tell me they have different diseases, and I never tell them some of the bad outcomes that's happened to someone else. Just because some people haven't done well doesn't mean all are going to not!! WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT. I remain positive, and I think the best thing to say is I hope you'll be OK, and I will say prayers for you. Also, I ask if there is anything I can do to help them.(I was like this even before cancer) One of the worst things I feel is for someone to not say anything! My ex-husband still to this day has never said a word about it. I ran into him the other day, & I saw his eyes right away go to looking at my breast!! That really irritates me how someone wants to stare at my breast to see if they are still there. How would they know if they're there or not? So many people make breast cancer out to be about losing your breast, instead of really what it's about.