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Posted by Jeanne on October 6, 2009, 8:31 pm, in reply to "breast cancer"
Dear Trudy,
Getting the news "it is cancer" is something that we don't want to hear, but all of us here have heard that very thing. We are here for you, Sweetie.
I'm sorry that you are having to face cancer along with dealing with your's husband's alcoholism. Even though we've just met, we care about you and want you to be safe and well. Good to hear that you have a positive attitude because you'll need it. Please know that there will be sad/bad days, which have nothing to do with your husband's drinking but only with the cancer. So please try to surround yourself with people who care and are there for you.
Please, please talk to your doctor and don't cancel your surgery that's scheduled for Nov. 2. Perhaps your doctor can recommend some support groups or resources for you, your husband, and your family.
Sarah's idea about staying with family or friends sounds like a good one but it would mean that you would have to reach out to others and ask for their help. Dealing with cancer is a battle of its own and you'll need all your energy and focus in fighting. If your husband can be there for you, great; but, if he chooses to drink & become violent, then you'll need to make some decisions - remain in the situation or make some changes... all of which is much easier said than done.
Please know that I'll be praying for you, your husband, and your family. My children are young (11, 8, and 5) and we've been able to be open about my breast cancer with them. We have a strong faith in the Lord and He is carrying us thru this. Sending you warm, gentle hugs...
Thinking of you,
Jeanne
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