I'm so gratified that you would remember me from my relatively few posts on the old Smoking Fetish Ethics board! I'm sorry I dropped out of sight for so long. I'm afraid it was the old story - very bad marriage, and no time left over for myself. I'm now in a very good marriage, with the added benefit of being with someone who shares our collective fascination. I'm looking forward to delving once again into our "complex and psychologically dark romance".