So, the scenario that you are imagining is you smoking with your BF present, or not present? And then being intimate with him after getting turned on by your smoking? Does it add or detract to the turn on to imagine him watching you?
He wouldn't need to be present, although that might add to the excitement... and yes, I would smoke and then be intimate with him. I can see potential problems to this fantasy- like for example what if he can't stand the smell of the smoke on me or how I taste? He claims that smoking is neither a turn-on nor a turn-off for him... but who knows?
"Defile" - kind of a delicious word, isn't it?
I've always been very fond of the Vampire Myth. Especially the notion that a Vampire can only enter where invited. The Seduction of Evil is only Hot if you want it Baby.
I too, am fond of the Vampire myth and Vampires in general Somewhat off topic, but I am a huge fan of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, especially her relationship with Spike in the sixth season. I think it might be because her relationship with Spike represents an attraction to something dark. I see many parallels between her relationship with Spike and my relationship with smoking/ my SF. Or at least the progression... it is really interesting.
First there was attraction. Then denial of the attraction... followed by partial yielding to the attraction, a few kisses that were usually denied later. Then came almost complete surrender to the attraction- (sex that literally caused a building to implode) followed by more denial, but still more yielding but always in secret- the others must not know... it goes on like that for awhile. The parallels eventually stop... but it is a storyline that really hit home for me.