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Posted by vesperae We can certainly make sacrifices for those that we love and care about, but dishonesty about who we are isn't a sacrifice that is ever worth the imagined benefits, and I believe that the benefits would be much greater overall if everyone involved was honest about the reality of the situation. As a lesbian, I speak from a lifetime of experience on this subject, primarily though observing my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters and seeing what havoc denial wreaks in not only their lives, but in the lives of those around them. Fortunately, I've never really been ashamed of who I am, so I've managed to avoid some of the awful things that have happened to so many of them.
on July 29, 2007, 10:56 pm, in reply to "Clarification"
Message modified by board administrator July 29, 2007, 11:09 pm
Hi Freelance,
"I was just trying to make a general point, through that particular example, that suppressing personal needs may be a valid choice under some circumstances."
Suppressing and denying one's native sexual orientation is never a "valid" choice under any circumstances, IMHO, because it fundamentally impairs the person doing it to such an extent that she or he cannot be a truly and completely engaged member in the lives of others.
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