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Posted by Pete on March 26, 2007, 1:20 am, in reply to "Perspective, Power, & Potential Guilt..." Not sure what you mean by : “I also agree that it is very likely that your GF’s behavior towards you and her comments about smoking to you are strongly influenced by the fact that you are a “sporty” non-smoker, and are also her BF.” What she has no idea about his that apart from the aesthetic what I really find sexy is not just the image but what that cigarette is really doing to her, the attraction in her demise. On that level she has no idea of my true thoughts. She knows fine well I find smoking in women very appealing and especially in her but NOT the whole story. That’s what I’ve been trying to say. You can with my particular outlook on the fetish only be open so far. Selling her that image of how I see her smoking: Feminine, sexy, sophisticated etc. Is also part of how I have always attempted to make her smoking so easy, so comfortable in our relationship. I’ve touched on that before. But in making her aware in how appealing I find her smoking doesn’t potentially alleviate any guilt because it’s just another aspect in which I encourage her in a manner to smoke. It could well add to any future guilt. Yes of course I cant force the cigarette between her fingers. The decision is ultimately hers. But she is aware I would certainly miss her smoking if she quit.. For her she knows that the man in her life has really bought into the smoking is sexy, smoking is feminine, glamourous and that fact that I have bought into that allows her to buy into it. I know it sounds almost crazy that modern professional woman in this day and age could buy into that but I really think she does, certainly on some level. In the dynamic of her relationship with me everything the advertisers of years gone by tried to sell with a cigarette, feminine, sexy, etc is true. I reinforce that on a daily basis Does that make sense? What she doesn’t realize is that all the negatives and possible premature death, all the factors the advertisers kept so hidden well I’m secretly reinforcing that as well. In fact it’s the negatives that I’m REALLY selling under the guise of the former. Yes I admit she really is the star of my own personal PSA and yes there is a part a dark part that hopes she see the role out to its tragic end. Yes its her choice but part of me hopes that she makes the wrong choice. In so many ways she is the PERFECT PSA. A truly modern tragedy. Pete
Hello again Vesperae,
You’re right in some parts and maybe wrong in others. You see she is very much aware of how attractive I find her smoking. I’ve never been shy about that aspect and openly admit that I find her smoking sophisticated, glamorous and sexy all the things the antis are so often trying to deny I do openly admit. I’ve always found most women smokers very receptive to complements regarding their smoking, as I say I don’t know why so many on the mainstream boards seem to think it may be different? Remember most women don’t take up smoking to appear unattractive to the opposite sex. My girlfriend on this level is very aware of how I find her smoking. The aesthetic, the feminity. She smoked before I met her. The little game I sometimes play when lighting her cigarette, well she knows very much on one level where I’m coming from. That is the most superficial level that I see her smoking associated with feminity, glamour, femme fatale even. Very much the Hollywood classic image. She can see that and where I come from and yes buy into that.
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