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Posted by Wendy
on 1/10/2008, 1:55 pm, in reply to "can twins play happily?"
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My 18 month old twins are off and on with getting along. I've really tried to emphasize what they should do instead of what they shouldn't do. So, when I see them hitting eachother, I teach them how to be soft and nice with eachother (kissing, hugging, softly stroking, etc). Now when I tell them to be nice, they automatically give eachother kisses.
I've also tried to teach them the concept of eachother's feelings by noting when one of them is crying and saying, "Your brother is sad. Can he have a kiss?" Now they say "sad" when the other is crying and go give a kiss.
As for sharing, I never force it, but I ask one twin if his brother can use whatever they're fighting over. About 50-75% of the time, one will hand it over, although, one of my twins is more tender hearted and will share more readily. I then give lots of praise and find something else for the generous twin to play with.
I think the key is putting in some extra time to teach the right way to handle things. It won't sink in immediately and they won't follow your example 100% of the time, but it might help enough to calm things down at your house.
Good Luck!
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