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As you know, I'm quite determined that my grandchildren will grow up uninfluenced by my toilet hang ups. I hope their latest story will make you smile - my son and his family have just moved to a new house with a big garden. My grandson, aged 3, got fed up with having to stop playing in the garden to go inside to the bathroom when he needed the toilet, so someone told him it was ok for boys to use the garden drain instead. He took that on board - but I think they should have mentioned to him that they were only referring to peeing - when they were last playing outside, a horrified loud cry went up from a number of visiting children "Robert's doing a poo in the drain"! How lovely to be so unself-conscious, however I think he is going to have to learn some of the norms of toilet etiquette. (Incidentally his name isn't Robert - I wouldn't want to identify him).