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I've had a thought-provoking weekend. We visited family to spend some time with our lovely grandchildren. Of the 2 younger ones, one girl is aged 4 and one boy aged nearly 3, in the throes of becoming more reliable with toilet training. He really didn't want to take the time out from having fun to do boring things like visit the toilet so we made a game of it - "let's all go to the bathroom and take it in turns to use the toilet". So I found myself trying to pee on the toilet with 2 pairs of eyes watching me! Conscious that I didn't want to saddle the children with any of my hang-ups I went through the motions but have to confess that I faked it - I don't think they guessed - I hope I was a picture of laid back toilet-relaxed granny! We then had the inevitable comparison of the colour of our knickers - mine have neither a Disney Princess nor Spiderman on! It made me a little sad to wonder what went wrong that something so natural could have caused me so much trouble over the years. And to hope that the children don't grow up with the same difficulties.