I really feel for you, paruresis is enough of a nightmare without having to deal with needing an assistant as well. The way desensing with a buddy works, is that you do the fluid loading as on the workshop, then take turns to go to the loo. You start by asking your buddy to be wherever you feel comfortable, e.g. if you are using the hotel room, you could ask them to go out in the corridor, or over the other side of the room - whatever you need to be able to relax and wee. When you have done that successfully a couple of times, you increase the challenge just a little bit - ask them to stand nearer, or leave the door open a little bit - whatever. I did find it really helpful and made progress, so ideally I would like another female to desense with, maybe on a follow up workshop, or if anyone lives in Norfolk/Suffolk area. Good luck, keep practicing and do keep in touch.
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